Arn Buck – October 14, 2007
Heart Song Worship Center
Psalms 70:4 (NKJV)
Let all those who seek You rejoice and be glad in You;
And let those who love Your salvation
say continually,“Let
God be magnified!”
“Grumbling and complaining are weeds that choke and displace
flowers of praise.”
Linda Buck
One Out of Ten
It's special to see the
joyful expression on a child when they open a present that they like.
Isn't it even nicer when they come up to you and give you a hug and
kiss to express their gratitude after opening it? It is something
that we don't or shouldn't expect. However, it really does enhance
the joy of giving.
Luke 17:12 – 19 (NLT)
As he entered a village there, ten lepers stood
at a distance, crying out, “Jesus, Master, have
mercy on us!” He looked at them and said, “Go show
yourselves to the priests.” And as they went, they were
cleansed of their leprosy. One of them, when he saw that
he was healed, came back to Jesus, shouting, “Praise God!
He fell to the ground at Jesus’ feet, thanking him for
what he had done. This man was a Samaritan. Jesus asked,
“Didn’t I heal ten men? Where are the other nine?
Has no one returned to give glory to God except this
foreigner?” And Jesus said to the man, “Stand
up and go. Your faith has healed you.”
It must have been an
horrendous experience to be a leper in Jewish society at the time of
Christ. According to Leviticus 13:45–46, a leper had to yell
“Unclean! Unclean!” as they went down the street so that
people could avoid getting anywhere near them. They had to wear torn
clothes and leave their hair messed up. Can you imagine how demeaning
this was? Would you walk through the mall wearing dirty and smelly
worn–out clothes having a “bad hair day” that would even
terrify avid horror movie goers? And then cause everyone to look at you
because you are yelling “Unclean! Unclean.” Would you
attend Easter Service at church looking like that? On top of all
this lepers had to live alone; outside the camp. This was away from
all their family, friends, and material possessions. It was also
dangerous to be outside alone at night. It is difficult to imagine
something that would produce more despair and loneliness.
When Jesus healed the ten
lepers, he not only took their disease away, they were able to return
to normal lives again. I could image their utter despair turning
into exceeding joy as they found themselves being healed on their
journey to show the priests. Their hearts probably danced in
celebration as they felt the heavy weight of their hopelessness
lifted and taken away. There are probably few joys in life that
could compare with what they experienced; yet only one of the ten
returned to thank Jesus. Why? I have little doubt that all ten were
exuberantly thankful. Why did only one return?
We do not know the answer.
The Bible does not provide enough detail. However, it is my
supposition that the one who returned had a sensitivity to God. This
was fruit that sprouted from a genuine relationship with God. The Old
Testament makes it abundantly clear that offering thanksgiving is
pleasing to God. God had given this poor leper the greatest gift he
could imagine asking for. It was a gift that he did not deserve and
one that he could never repay. He could, however, bring pleasure to
his Healer by showing sincere, heartfelt gratitude.
His returning to Jesus permitted interaction between the two.
Jesus was able to enforce the leper's faith by telling him, “Your
faith has made you well.” His behavior of offering thanksgiving
was re–enforced indirectly when Jesus asked, “But where are
the nine?” This interaction must have solidified the leper's
bond to God. The others, although healed, missed this benefit.
The Role of Gratitude in Relationships
Several weeks ago we learned
that trust was a foundational element to any relationship. Gratitude
is a thread that can be woven into a fabric that will hold a
relationship together. This fabric is constructed by interweaving
threads of gratitude from both sides together. The strength of the
fabric is determined by the number and quality of the threads
contributed. Expressing gratitude lets another know that they are
appreciated. It let's them know that they are valued highly –
that they are in the other's thoughts in a positive way. It
re–enforces that they are an important part of the other person's
life.
Gratitude is not a
re–payment for what one receives from another. Re–payment can be
viewed as one's intention of remaining debt free to another. It
could indicate that one party wants to keep its distance from the
other. Gratitude is much different. It is telling someone that
what they did is so precious that it cannot be repaid and that they
are cherished for what they are. It is clearly acknowledging the
importance of the relationship. Isn't it wonderful to be able to
express this to God knowing that it brings pleasure to Him?
Making the other person in
the relationship know they are appreciated sometimes takes a
conscious effort. Marriages sometimes fall apart when one partner
begins focusing on the things the other person does naturally that
annoys them. This can get to a point where their former lover
becomes an enemy. It begins to seem as if they are purposefully
doing these things for the sake of annoying them. Meanwhile they
have reduced or even stopped using gratitude to strengthen the
relationship. Complaints begin to replace praise. As a result, the
other partner is no longer feeling appreciated. This, in turn, might
motivate them to also focus on negative characteristics. Such focus
on the negative features causes the other person to become bad in our
minds. Although they are actually the same good person that you
dated, in your mind they are now bad. Unfortunately we control our
own sense of reality. Others can be innocent victims of our
distorted perception. It's not what someone is that counts. It is
what we think of them.
Gratitude naturally helps a
relationship because it puts focus on the other person. Complaining
is self–centered. Self focus in our
relationship with God can have disastrous results. The demands of
our busy life styles can easily distract us from God. Once we loose
focus on Him, we no longer see the things that cause us to express
gratitude. The Apostle Paul describes this in the book of Romans.
Romans 1:21 (NLT)
Yes, they knew God, but
they wouldn’t worship him as God or even give him thanks. And
they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As a
result, their minds became dark and confused.
God does not want to confuse
us. He wants to enlighten us. He wants us to see Him for what He
is. This is why the Bible encourages us to continually maintain an
attitude of thankfulness toward God.
Psalms 92:1 – 2, 4 (NLT)
It is good to give thanks to the LORD,to
sing praises to the Most High. It
is good to proclaim your unfailing love in the morning,
your faithfulness in the evening.
You thrill me, LORD, with all you have
done for me! I
sing for joy because of what you have done.
1 Thessalonians 5:16 – 18 (NIV)
Be joyful always; pray
continually; give
thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in
Christ Jesus.
Gratitude and Science Together in Reader's Digest
It is not usual for
scientific and medical studies to re–enforce the benefit of Biblically
based life styles. The October 2007 issue of Reader's Digest
contains an article entitled “How the New Science of Thank You
Can Change Your Life” written by Deborah Norville. The
following section is taken from the opening page of the article.
What if, instead of wallowing in our misery, we all chose to focus on
being valued by a dear friend, for example, or the memory of a
colleague's when she receives a surprise birthday cake at work, or
the smooth ride we've had to work in the past week? As science is
now proving, feeling grateful can actually make us healthier, literally.
Practicing gratitude, acknowledging the blessings in our lives and making
it a point to recognize the good things can change us positively.
The article later discusses
a study done by two psychology professors – Robert Emmons, PhD of
the University of California and Michael McCullough of the University
of Miami. The following is selected extract from that study.
“Others around them
recognized that too. They noticed that these people had more joy,
more energy. They could see that they were becoming more
optimistic,” says Emmons. The grateful group “even seemed
to be perceived as more helpful toward others, going out on a limb to
help people.” Emmons was surprised by this result. “This
is not just something that makes people happy, like a
positive–thinking/optimism kind of thing. A feeling of gratitude
really gets people to do something, to become more pro–social, more
compassionate.”
The results should not be
surprising to us. We just learned that gratitude takes the focus
from ourselves and directs it toward others. Didn't Jesus command us
to love others as we love ourselves? Wouldn't it be great if most
Christians stood out from society for the reasons the people in the
study did? The church universal as the Body of Christ would have so
much more creditability. We would be more like what the Word of God
says we should be. In a follow–up study they concluded that people
who were consciously grateful experienced the following benefits:
- Felt better about their lives.
- Were more optimistic.
- Were more energetic.
- Were more enthusiastic.
- Were more determinied.
- Were more interested.
- Were more joyful.
- Exercised more.
- Had fewer illnesses.
- Got more sleep.
- Were more likely to have helped someone else.
If people can accomplish
these things without God, can you imagine what could be accomplished
with God? Firstly, a Christian having a good interactive
relationship with God should have a whole new dimension of things to
be grateful for. Secondly, we have God's Word and the leading of the
Holy Spirit as a guide to further develop us. Thirdly, we have God's
unlimited love working through us to show compassion, and fourthly, we
have the empowerment of the Holy Spirit enable us. Do not miss
this. This is real. This is something that has the potential to
actually change the world around us.
Developing and Maintaining an Attitude of Gratitude
Last week I gave an account
of how God taught a church how to be victorious by praising God in
all that we do. That was an important lesson for my wife and
myself. We saw, first hand, how God brought good solutions to all
the problems we faced when we took the time to praise Him. We
praised Him for what He was and for the things that He had done for
us. Although the process worked, we found it difficult to sustain
an attitude of praise over an extended period of time without falling
to repetitious patterns. Over time the I started look at things
around me that I could regularly express gratitude for. The list
started almost like the list that was shared last week. I became
thankful for my wife, son, daughter, family, friends, musical
equipment, health, house, automobiles, job, money in the bank, books
– the list began to grow and the dimension of gratitude also
expanded. For example, as I expressed thanksgiving to God for my
wife, my appreciation for her grew. I clearly remember getting home
from work and feeling like I did when I used to pick her up for dates
a couple decades earlier. I was really excited to see her again at
the end of my work day.
In addition to this, as my
focus on God expanded, the things that He made me grateful for also
grew. The more I looked toward Him the more I saw Him all around me.
This fed a hunger to know Him more which in turn expanded the list
more. The limitation ended up being the time that I could spend
pursuing Him. The opening scripture today included Psalm 70:4 “Let
all those who seek You rejoice and be glad in You.” Because
of what He is, the rewards we gain from seeking Him are unlimited.
Now I am finding that the
biggest deterrent to sustaining a constant attitude of praise is
the distractions of our daily lives. It is easy to get caught up in
a situation or activity and get off track. As mentioned earlier, it
takes determination. It is, however the best method I know for
maintaining a focus on God for a substantial period of time.
Every Moment is Precious
Besides the attitude of
gratitude another method of thanksgiving is learning to cherish every
moment that we have in God's presence. At my last church I was part
of a two person worship team. My wife told me that she could sense
a level of excitement in us every single time that we led worship.
This was over a two year period. There were many factors that
contributed to this. The singer and I were immensely grateful that
God put us together in a ministry that we both loved. We had the
same musical tastes and thoroughly enjoyed all the songs we did. We
truly appreciated each other's musical and spiritual gifts. However,
one thing that really made a difference is that we learned to cherish
each moment that we had in His presence during worship. This may not
be as sustainable as the “attitude of gratitude” but it
certainly enhances our relationship with God. So far it is the
ultimate gratitude that I have learned to express to my God who is
deserving of all I can give and all that I can imagine.
Hebrews 13:15 (NKJV)
Therefore by Him let us continually offer the sacrifice of praise to
God, that is, the fruit of our lips, giving thanks to His name.
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